Anger makes people do things that they come to regret later. During a moment of anger, many people say things that they would never have said. Anger has led to the destruction of many people’s lives, both the lives of those who act during anger and to those whom that anger is directed towards. Anger is a normal part of human life because of the fallen human nature, but when out of control, it becomes a doorway through which satan launches an attack. When anger is prolonged, it breeds sin. When someone does something or says something that makes us angry, we need to be very careful about what we say and what we do during such moments. We should be careful and watch out so that we do not fall into sin just because someone else has sinned against us. We should pray and ask God to help us forgive the other person, no matter what that other person has done or said to us.
Most of the time people hold on to anger because of pride. We think that other people should treat us well and talk to us in a good way, and when they do not, we think they owe us an apology. People can go on days upon days with anger boiling within them. We usually do not want to take the first step to apologize because we do not want to be seen as weak. Because of that, many people would rather breed the anger and unforgiveness instead of facing the other person and making peace with them. Many people have become enemies over minor issues that could have been sorted out if both parties humbled themselves, admitted their wrongs and apologized to each other. Even if the other person does not and never apologizes when they offend or hurt us, that is no justification for us to hold them in our hearts. Every person shall be judged by God individually and we should take the step to make peace even if it is the other person who was on the wrong. We should always strive to be in right standing with God, and the way we treat one another and handle disputes speak loudly about our love for God. When we love God then we will seek to please Him, no matter the personal cost to us. To make peace, we have to die to self and cloth ourselves with humility, and pray for God to empower us to do and say the right things no matter what the other person is doing or saying to us.
When we hold on to anger, that becomes a fertile ground for sin to take root in our hearts. With time roots of bitterness will grow deep within us. Bitterness is a soreness of the heart and every time we see or think about that person who has hurt us, it is like a wound is made fresh in our hearts. Bitterness makes people wish bad things for others, it makes it difficult to pray for the other person, it makes it difficult for people to come to a point of forgiveness. Bitterness is like carrying the other person with us everywhere that we go. It makes a person very volatile and they become like a ticking time bomb, anything small provokes that person to explode. It is like poison to the soul, and many bitter people start developing physical symptoms and become emotionally and psychologically unstable. Bitterness and unforgiveness eats a person from the inside out, they start developing all kinds of unexplainable illnesses and diseases. When anger goes on and on then a person starts hating the other person. Outright hatred then develops into full blown wrath and that is when we see people committing crimes against the person who has hurt them. Satan delights in people who hold onto anger and unforgiveness because he can easily use them to accomplish his evil mission.
The Bible tells us that in our anger we should not sin. It is possible to be angry and not sin by the power of the Holy Spirit. When we realize there is something or someone who has led us into getting angry, we should quickly make peace and forgive fast. No matter what has happened, we should always hold our relationship with God to the highest importance and not allow anything or anyone to divert us from following Christ. Nothing in this world is worth losing eternal life. When you get angry, take time out and study and meditate on the Word of God. Search for what the scripture says about the situation you are currently going through. Seek God’s help because on our own we cannot do good, any goodness in us is because of God. In our fallen human nature we are not capable of forgiveness, we need God’s help. On our own, pride will prevail, but with God’s help, we are able to die to the flesh and humble ourselves and make peace with other people. Do not let the sun go down on your wrath because when you do, you open your life to demonic attacks and sin will enter into your life.
“Cease from anger, and forsake wrath; Do not fret – it only causes harm” Psalm 37:8.